Don't be secretly engaged. The church symbolically represents the Bride.  Would you marry someone who kept you a secret from everyone they know?  Tell everyone about Jesus and how wonderful he is.

Guys if you don't want to think of yourself as the Bride think of yourself as part of the body of Christ.  The Bible refers to the Church as his body. Jesus is the strongest most loving man there is. He was well respected and spoke boldly. He was not afraid of anyone or anything. Be proud in your identity as part of him.